Many of us have done everything we were told by society, peers, or parents to lead a life of happiness. We went to school, got the job, and are making a living, and then we reach a point where we think, "Now what"? Many of my coaching clients ask, "Is this it?", "Is this my purpose in life--to go to work, make money, and sit on my couch dreading going to work in the morning?"
Like you know, this is some's reality, and never think they can go outside the status quo and make a change or are so fearful of stepping outside their comfort zone and starting new, that they are immobile.
Many people, especially Millennials, are not settling for society's standard of "living the dream". We are working to create our own dreams and understand that each person's map, template, or blueprint of life looks differently to create that. Instead of looking to achieve the next pay raise or promotion, we are looking for the littler things in life that are going to create a life of fulfillment. If you want to learn more on this, read A Longing for Meaning.
I recently read a quote that said something like this: what if you woke up today only with the things you thanked The Universe for yesterday? Honestly, when I read this, I thought, "Oh, crap." This really started bothering me. I hadn't thanked The Universe for anything yesterday...or the day before that. And what is this The Universe thing, anyway?
The Universe can be whatever it is that you believe in. God, Jesus, Buddha, Karma, Good Vibes, take your pick. The important part is that you believe in something. This is important because as humans. we need to feel like there is a purpose or meaning for our actions, beliefs, behaviors, and life. We often don't pay attention to anything but the physical world as we know it, however, when you ask yourself "How do I want people to remember me at my funeral?", that puts in a whole new area of reflection.
Obviously, these are big questions and often questions that need some time in reflection in order to answer them fully. Once you've answered these questions, you may have a better look at your purpose, values, or direction. If you need help processing these or identifying a plan to reach these goals, and any additional thoughts, please comment or shoot me an email!
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