Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.” - Brene Brown
As I typed in the title of this article, I cringed a little because I know how hard it can be for some of us. I thought about changing it--to make it be a little more comfortable and talk about how great being authentic is and finding your true self can be, and while I will still do this, I want to also share all sides to authenticity.
Being authentic means knowing who you are and showing that to the world. It means acting in accordance to your values. It means not changing your opinion on something because it makes someone else uncomfortable, and it means sharing your beliefs even if someone else may not agree or understand them.
What Prevents Us from Being Authentic
So many of my clients live in dissatisfaction. They can't always pinpoint why they aren't satisfied with certain areas in their life, but it almost always leads back to areas where they feel like they aren't being their true selves, where they are so focused on what other people think or trying to be perfect, that they shrink themselves, hide who they are, laugh at jokes that aren't funny, and coming across as comfortable in situations where they aren't.
They are quieting themselves, not listening to themselves, thus losing trust within themselves.
How to Build Your Authenticity Muscle
If you would like more information on practicing authenticity, getting rid of perfectionism and practicing self-compassion, visit my Resource page to view the books I recommend by Brene Brown--The Gifts of Imperfection is a great place to start.
Robin Helget, LMSW
Therapist. Millennial. Social Worker. Dog Mom. Friend. Sister. Empath. INFJ. Lover of ice cream.