Millennials want to know the purpose behind the brand. They want to see the behind-the-scenes and who and what they are buying for what they really are. Are you showing your true selves or company? Do you offer to show and talk about the day-to-day ins and outs of what it takes. Are you showing your market that you are a real human with real concerns and real wins?
"Many of us confuse the need for achievement with the need for fulfillment. Achievement is more of a measurable concept. You set measurable goals for yourself, such as reaching $60k per year, and once you reach it, you’ve “achieved” that goal. Fulfillment is the feeling that of peace--that you know there is meaning in your actions, in your beliefs, and in the way you think. However, seeking achievement will never make you completely content. For a moment, maybe. You will constantly seek the next "next" to where you find yourself chasing the top of a never-ending ladder."
We’ve all heard it before – new year, new me – but, how often do our actions follow this phrase? We all know that we can continue to become a better version of ourselves, but we often get caught up in the minutiae of everyday life. Financial matters are on the forefront of most people’s minds, but we kick the can down the road. “I’ll work on that tomorrow or next month or next year” is a common phrase our minds revert back to when it comes to dealing with financial stress. The new year is a perfect time to change our mindsets and reevaluate our financial goals. Whether it’s paying down debt, creating a clear budget, or developing a strategic financial plan, we can all face our financial fears by establishing good habits.
Developing clear financial goals is overwhelming, but with a few simple steps we can start the
year off in the right direction.
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SOMEDAY IS A DISEASE THAT WILL TAKE YOUR DREAMS TO THE GRAVE WITH YOU," - Tim Ferriss
The last week has brought beautiful weather that makes me want to stay outside all day. The cool, crisp air somehow brings feelings of a new beginning for me, a fresh start, despite it being closer to an end of year.
Unfortunately, the weather doesn't last, and the motivation to stay outside and get out in the public doesn't either.
For others, it isn' the Fall that brings this feeling--the one of hope, light, and excitement--the giddiness to get up in the morning and feel the cool air trace along your cheeks. Even so, you can relate to the feeling. But what happens when, like everything else, it doesn't last?
Sometimes loss of motivation stems from underlying depression or crippling anxiety that tells you all the things to worry about. Other times, you just don't "feel" like getting out or leaving your bed. If you're not clinically depressed and maybe just finding yourself more unmotivated and sluggish, here are a few ways to gain the motivation back, make moves in your daily routine, and continue to be productive through being outside, getting things done, doing fun activities in the community, or meeting up with friends.
Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.” - Brene Brown
As I typed in the title of this article, I cringed a little because I know how hard it can be for some of us. I thought about changing it--to make it be a little more comfortable and talk about how great being authentic is and finding your true self can be, and while I will still do this, I want to also share all sides to authenticity.
Being authentic means knowing who you are and showing that to the world. It means acting in accordance to your values. It means not changing your opinion on something because it makes someone else uncomfortable, and it means sharing your beliefs even if someone else may not agree or understand them.
What Prevents Us from Being Authentic
So many of my clients live in dissatisfaction. They can't always pinpoint why they aren't satisfied with certain areas in their life, but it almost always leads back to areas where they feel like they aren't being their true selves, where they are so focused on what other people think or trying to be perfect, that they shrink themselves, hide who they are, laugh at jokes that aren't funny, and coming across as comfortable in situations where they aren't.
They are quieting themselves, not listening to themselves, thus losing trust within themselves.
How to Build Your Authenticity Muscle
If you would like more information on practicing authenticity, getting rid of perfectionism and practicing self-compassion, visit my Resource page to view the books I recommend by Brene Brown--The Gifts of Imperfection is a great place to start.
Robin Helget, LMSW
Without that training, I am confident that I would have gone downhill fast. I was largely in denial, avoidance, and deep pain. I lost who I was, and movement helped me find it again.
Many of us call it exercise. At least, I did. However, what is good for our body made not be exercise in the form we think of it -- it may not fit for us to spend hours on a cardio machine or in front of the squat rack. That's what we think of when we think of exercising. Some may even associate it with misery. I know I have in the past.
Many of my clients are missing this piece of their wedge in their life. After working with wellness advocated, Jen Nobo , I have started using the term "movement" instead of exercise. Movement means how it sounds: it means to move.
Movement for me has taken many forms:
In junior high, I moved in the form of weightlifting in a local club and by playing softball.
high school, I moved in volleyball, basketball, and dance team.
In college, I moved by running too many miles a day and used it as a form of punishment.
In grad school, I moved rarely.
Post-graduate school, I worked in gyms.
Movement has been healthy and unhealthy for me. I have used it as an all-or-nothing way of living like I did in many other areas. However, in 2015, movement saved my life.
After experiencing trauma in 2014, I spent that year in denial, loss, and confusion. I was just surviving. I quit being a therapist. I worked in two gyms and nannied to figure out what my next move was. I was a mess, like many of us and my clients are after having something completely unexpected happen in their lives.
That same summer, my friend Shawna (pictured above) briefly stated in passing that she was going to start training to run a marathon, and I without hesitating said I'd join.
The training started out running 3 miles, 3 times per day. Just finishing the 3 miles, whether you had to walk or not, was the goal. It eventually worked its way up until one Saturday, I ran 18 miles in preparation.
Movement helped me trust my body after I lost complete faith in it. Movement helped me push my mental state to more than it could have ever done otherwise. Movement helped me get more in tune with nature--it forced me to see things, to get out of the house and more importantly, out of my own head.
Movement saved my life. After completing the marathon, hallucinating a little, running next to a man in a wheelchair, and so many other ah-ha moments, I found myself as I crossed a finish line I wasn't sure I'd ever reach.
Isn't that how life is? We don't think we can do it until we've put in the work and crossed the finish line. We wonder if we can do it as we're doing the hard work, but after it's done, the joy we feel is indescribable.
Now, for me, movement isn't about running a marathon or long distances --though it is for many!-- Movement is more about becoming stronger with weights, the occasional barre class, joining a gym that I actually like, and figuring out what else my body can do--because I can trust it and it deserves the best.
What's stopping you from incorporating movement into your life?
What is one small step you could do to begin to incorporate it?
It doesn't have to be a marathon, a gym membership, or a fitness competition. It can be as simple as a walk around the block, a yoga class with goats, or seeing how many push-ups you can do. It can be stretching, cycling, or barre. It can be running. It can be lifting. It can be doing squats with your baby on your hip.
Movement saved my life. Given the chance, what can it do for you?
Robin Helget, LMSW, CPT
Functional Medicine doctors not only take into consideration your signs, symptoms, and lab values, but also see how your “environment” and labs tie all together, Including lifestyle factors such as diet, stress level, exercise, and many other factors that may be contributing to your condition. " - Dr. Michael Brown
conditions, and a large variety of other issues using bio-identical hormones, dietary and nutritional intervention, botanical and homeopathic medicine, anti-aging protocols, environmental medicine and detoxification, and the use of pharmaceutical-grade nutrients (nutraceuticals).
Dr Brown is regarded as a very knowledgeable, passionate, and caring doctor who utilizes evidenced-based, clinically effective therapies in restoring his patients to optimal health and well being. Follow him on social media for the most recent information below!
A Naturopath's Guide to Treating Anxiety and Depression
Do you feel anxious? Nervous? Frustrated? Overwhelmed? Have you been diagnosed with depression? Are you on one, two, even three prescription medications? Are you afraid “something is wrong with you”? If you answered "yes" to any of the above, here are a few things to consider before throwing in the towel and giving in to the idea that there is, in fact, "something wrong with you”:
Maybe some of these have caught your attention. In today’s world of rapidly evolving information, some of the below ideas--based on the re-emergence of a field of medicine that has stood the test of time--may very well hold the key(s) to helping you get back on your path of health and well being!
Courage starts with showing up and being seen" - Brene Brown
I've been avoiding writing this post for awhile because like the title says, well, it's vulnerable to talk about vulnerability. I have avoided feeling vulnerable for a lot of my life, and since this week in the KC Empower Series with Jen Nobo is about perfectionism, I was hit with the blunt reality that I would not be being real with the audience if I didn't talk about this topic.
Over the last few years, I have been reading more about the research on vulnerability from Brene Brown. This YouTube video was really the first time I had heard someone else express the fear behind vulnerability and showing others who you really are.
“Perfectionism is not the same thing has striving to be your best. Perfectionism is the belief that if we live perfect, look perfect, and act perfect, we can minimize or avoid the pain of blame, judgement, and shame. It’s a shield. It’s a twenty-ton shield that we lug around thinking it will protect us when, in fact, it’s the thing that’s really preventing us from flight.” - Brene Brown
As an entrepreneur in the health and wellness world I have often worn my perfectionistic tendencies like a badge of honor. I never miss a workout, skip the dessert at the office potlucks, and try to constantly put out new content on my social media pages. This is what I am supposed to be doing right?
The health industry is saturated with people who are obsessed with perfectionism. The average person looks up to the #fitspos because of their dedication. They are in awe that these crazy fit people never miss a Monday and have the strength to say no to the birthday cake at every party. While perfectionism may be helping them maintain those #fitgoals, it is likely costing them greatly in other areas.
Therapist. Millennial. Social Worker. Dog Mom. Friend. Sister. Empath. INFJ. Lover of ice cream.